Steps on Becoming A Better You

There will be days when you will feel like it is the end of the road for you. You will lose faith in people because they can be unreliable when it comes to personal matters. Your self-confidence would greatly diminish next to nothing, while self-pity would rise endlessly. These are the days when you will need help and comfort from the people around you. You will need a constant to hold on to. This is essential so that even when everything seems bleak and dark, you will still have a reason to continue living.

To prevent yourself from drowning in sorrow and spiralling down, have a goal that will make you determined to live and be a better person. Then, you have to set some perimeters and positive markers in your home. This could be anything from a person to food or even an object. That is why know, process, and evaluate what triggers you to spiral down inevitably.

First of all, you have to list down situations and topics wherein you suddenly lashed out. Identifying it by making a list can make it easier for you to be mindful when you think you are close to an emotional breakdown. After that, rest your head on a soft memory pillow as you take the beautiful view of Singapore through your window before going on to the next step. Next, determine what lifts your spirits up whenever you feel down. Some people like taking a nap on their favourite pillow before going on a stroll in Singapore to shop for a more comfortable memory foam pillow. Buying furniture for your home is one way to relieve stress. Others prefer staying inside the house and binge watch on Netflix to catch up on the show they eagerly wait for. Doing these steps is important so that you can think rationally when it is time for you to process your emotions. Cooling down before processing your issues is helpful since you can think more rationally on what is the root cause of the problem.  

Processing your issues however shallow they may be is healthy. This gives you an opportunity to understand yourself better in an objective point of view. Some people do not know how to process their feelings or emotions independently that is why they resort to consult a psychologists or a loved one to let out their emotional baggage. Nevertheless, trying to understand and identify the emotion you have felt during a disturbing situation is imperative. Only after identifying the emotion can you truly understand yourself. In your process, include possible stimuli which could have caused or triggered you in the first place. Then, relate them to past experiences and the very first time you may have reacted like that to the same stimulus.

Lastly, evaluate your findings. After connecting your emotion to the stimulus during a given situation, you may now try and comprehend why you were very affected and what you can do to change it. People look for answers, but they do not really seek for answers. If you do want answers, you will make an effort to change your ways or improve yourself so that you may learn how to positively react to stimulus which affects you negatively. This will not only make you into a better person, but it will also give you a better and rational mindset when interacting with people.